I have a beautiful story to share about adoption.   This story shows how adoption WORKS.

In June of 1979 I placed my son into adoption through the Edna Gladney Center . This was during a time when adoption was CLOSED – NO contact after the papers were signed.

I was 17 years old and wanted the best for him.  I felt at my age (and previous life experiences) I would not be able to give him the unconditional love and mature care that I wanted him to have.  It was the hardest decision in my life.  I held him when he was 3 days old with tears in my eyes, kissed him on his cheek and told him I loved him with all my heart.

Me @ 17

My life went in many directions after – Some good, some not so good – I thought about him all the time. Everytime I would see a boy around his age, I would wonder, is that him?  I prayed that he was alright and the family that had adopted him was one that was able to give him everything I dreamed of.

As the Internet came about, I found a lot of information about adoption and one site in particular where they have a FREE database you can post to – TxCARE – I posted the following information:


06-19-1979 Ft Worth
Birth Parent In Search
ORIGINAL: I had a son born at Duncan Hospital - Edna Gladney

He has a sister that is 3 years older than him adopted from Gladney as well

I would love to meet him. Lots of information to share. ((my email address here))


On August 8, 2003 at 1:34pm I received this email:


I was surfing the txcare.org website, and I came across your post.  I was born on June 19th, 1979 at Duncan Memorial Hospital.   Like most adoptees, we are very interested in learning about our medical history.  Could you provide me with additional information about your situation, that may help me in my search? ( i.e. time of birth, weight of child, your age at birth, birth fathers medical history, etc.) 


Needless to say, I was shocked - I wrote back that it was a coincidence and the date and time he was born.  By 11:30 that night it was confirmed we had a connection.

He wrote the following to me:  I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude from the bottom of my heart for giving me the gift of life.  You made the best decision for me.  I have been given everything that I could possibly need in life.  Two loving parents a great sister and a wonderful childhood.  I grew up how every child should, with unconditional love.  


This is exactly what I had always hoped for and was so important to me!  I was so overwhelmed with happiness and gratitude.   He was in his last year of college and needed to finish school before we met.  We continued to email each other for 8+ months, then…

Brian and his family invited me to his college graduation!



My sister Diane, Brian and me


What a blessing!  I flew up to Illinois and met Brian’s family.  His parents are kind and loving – they welcomed me with open arms.  I have a tremendous amount of love and respect for them.   This whole experience would not have been possible without the support and love of Brian’s parents.  I am also so very thankful for the support from my family and friends as I walked through this beautiful experience.

These situations can go in many different directions if everyone doesn’t approach it with respect and care for each other.  I have so much respect for Brian and his family – this is a blessing.


Christmas of 2004, Brian sent me a necklace with our birthstones (Amethyst and Pearl) with a note "wear it close to your heart to remember the special bond we share"  Once again, I felt like I was dreaming and so incredibly grateful!


Mother’s Day of 2005 – Brian, his Mom and Dad expressed that I hadn’t been acknowledged for Mothers Day the past 25 years and wanted to spend it with me!  What an incredible gift!!  We spent the day having brunch and went to my sister’s house. There I opened a card with the words...    


Because you never had the chance to tie my shoes or tickle my toes or know that I like to kick my shoes off… 


Then Brian and his family gave me a gift...  his baby shoes bronzed. 




Needless to say, Adoption works – it has worked well in this particular group of people.  It has worked because of the support and love of others in and outside of this triangle.  It has worked because we all approached each other with goodness in our hearts and respect.

 Here are more photos:


Our first meeting on Navy Pier in Chicago


In 2008, Brian married a beautiful girl Reenie – I was invited to his wedding!!


Reenie’s Mom Terri, Brian’s Mom Phyllis and me

Brian's Mom asked me to light the Unity candle with her during the ceremony.  I felt so honored!!


Brian and me dancing at his wedding


June 2009 I celebrated Brian’s 30th birthday with him and his family. 


December 2010, I received an email with the 1st picture of my first grandchild!  Reenie is due in July 2011!

Braydon was born July 15th, 2011 - I flew up to see him when he was 6 weeks old.

Braydon, Kathy and Brian

 Sweet Braydon


 I am a blessed woman.

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